Is it even possible to live Single and Satisfied?

The answer to the title's question is a big fat YES!, but first, let me say; WELCOME! I'm assuming you are here because you are familiar with the single life in some aspect. Perhaps you are already single, about to be single or curious about the way some singles think. You may be a single person who desire to remain single or, you are looking to be married some day. It is quite possible that you are married and landed here because you are looking for something to share with a loved one who is single. Whatever reason you're here, thank you! What you will find in this space, will always be inspirational and encouraging or, perhaps a bit controversial at times, but that's no reason to shy away from a subject. I hope you take away something of value and, please, always feel free to contribute your thoughts or experience if you like. My mother once told me, "what you go through in life is never just about you, it will always become an experience that someone else will go through and others have already gone through." Simply put, there is nothing new under the sun, and by sharing our experiences, we just may help someone else get through their own more successfully. 

Now, onto the subject of Singleness. Contrary to what many people think, living a single life does not automatically equate to boring, lonely or dissatisfied. Quite the contrary. Truth be told, there are boring, lonely and dissatisfied marrieds as there are singles. One thing is for sure; everyone knows what it is like to be single, but not everyone can identify with being married. I can identify with both. I am a single by choice. I became a widow after a thirty-six year marriage and I've chosen to remain single. The list of reasons for my choice can be quite extensive so I'll spare you. I live a very active life, but not an overwhelming life. I engage with people and activities that fulfill me, and add value to my existence. I am very others focused so there are things that I do that add value to others as well. That leaves no room for wondering, waiting, whining or worrying about why there's no Mister in my life. Besides, my beloved husband left a pretty big pair of shoes that I'm not interested in having filled! Regardless if you are single by choice, or, if you are preparing for your future bride or groom, the quality of your single state rests solely upon your shoulders. I vote for taking on an attitude of gratitude for your present position until the time comes that it could change.

Let's talk about Excellence, the quality of being outstanding or extremely good at something. Excellence commands attention without saying a word! I have always strived for excellence in everything I do. Just because cleaning my toilet will not be judged by anyone else (because no one else sees it), doesn't stop me from cleaning it as if I were being paid to do so! Excellence gives you a sense of satisfaction, knowing that you've done your absolute best, even if it was for your eyes only. It's the same with living an excellent single life. You want excellence in your single life not to impress anyone or appear to be something you're not. You want to live a life of single excellence for your own preservation and protection. 

Society portrays being single as having the freedom to hop from bed to bed, and deeming it as some sort of privilege. That's not a privilege at all! That type of lifestyle brings with it, issues that you  may have to deal with for the rest of your life! There is a way to navigate the single state without compromising your morals or values, or, without being in a constant depression, wondering what is wrong with you because no one chose you. I've known quite a number of men and women who settle for anyone that comes along because their internal narrative is, "well at least someone wants me." Having a person on your arm, (or in your bed) does not give value to you as a human. You are highly valuable and a treasure in your own right, and waiting for another person to see you as such, is worth the wait! Life is too short to waste time wishing for a marriage, an engagement or a relationship that may or may not happen. Those are tough words to hear I know, I really get it and empathize with you, but we all know there are no guarantees in this life, except to die. There have been people in my circle that have expressed a desire to be married someday, but sadly, that someday never came and life ended for them. Death is life's only guarantee! 

Now, we all know that not every single person wants to be married. To those who do, all I am suggesting is that it is far more beneficial to use your time and energy to focus on excellence in your single-hood instead. Not in order to be the best person you can be for someone else, simply to be the best you for you! Being good and kind to yourself gives you a big advantage, because it will result in you automatically being kind to others. The excellent you will likely prevent you from settling for anything other than an excellent other.