Table for Two

The reasons for being single varies. Some are single by choice, some by circumstance. Others are single because they haven't met their person yet. If you're single right now, it's not because you're not good enough for someone. It's more likely that you're too good for the wrong one. Always remember, God loves you enough to protect your heart, but, by the same token, He's gracious enough to allow you to make your own decisions. His desire is that you choose carefully and prayerfully. Your Heavenly Father doesn't do the work for you. He prefers to work with you. As you may be preparing your heart for the person you haven't yet met, don't neglect the One you have met. 

Another aspect of your desire to love and be loved in return as a mate is this; you will not be capable of loving another well, if you haven't learned to love yourself well first. If you can't love yourself, you're not ready to love another. There are far too many people trying to give love and receive love, but they can't do either because they have no self love. This in no way refers to the narcissistic false self love that our world is inundated with. That's really not love at all. The kind of self love you must acquire is, loving yourself well enough, that you forgive yourself for the mistakes you make, (because you will need to apply this to the person you mate up with). You must love yourself well enough to be patient with yourself as you navigate your journey of growth and maturity, (you will need to apply this to the person you mate up with). You must love yourself well enough to treat yourself well in all aspects; body, soul and mind. Just as you desire to have the best, be the best and present your best self to the world, you should want nothing less for the person you mate up with.

Have you ever observed a couple at a restaurant who are into each other? I mean really into each other, like, they've got the entire place to themselves into each other? It is lovely to witness. It doesn't matter what fine young thing walks by, their eyes seem locked onto each other. Distractions are few, if at all. The conversation flows easily and effortlessly as they hang onto every word of each other's sentences. There is a mutual admiration and respect. As a Selective Single, I say, don't waste time waiting for the one you want to come, without spending time with the One who's already here! Understandably, God is not the flesh and bone lover that your human-ness may desire, but, He is the One who can sustain and fulfill you in ways unimaginable, until that time comes. 

Like the loving couple in the previous paragraph, as a Selective Single, you are in a unique position to have a seat at the table with the One who loves you most, and you can have that special seat as often as your heart's desire. Shifting our focus from the natural to the spiritual, let us visualize another loving interaction at the table for two. You've agreed to meet Him in a special place and time. You both have been looking forward to getting together since you committed. You have put on the sweet fragrance of worship. You have doused yourself in the perfume of praise and He is enthralled and honored that you cared enough to do so. You are indeed a sweet smell in His nostrils! He gives you His undivided attention and you do the same. Although He has nearly all of humanity summoning His attention, calling His name, needing His help, pulling at Him, asking for things and favors, His eyes are on you! While hearing the cries and requests of millions upon millions of other voices, His ears are tuned in to hear every single word that comes from your lips! It is at this precise moment that you realize nothing else matters, because His love has engulfed you and you understand that he will protect and provide for whatever you need, regardless! How fortunate you are to have a seat at the table with the most important and well known One in all of creation, time and history! You have come prepared to be totally genuine and transparent, holding nothing back. After all, He knows everything there is to know about you. His eyes seem to penetrate your soul! He understands your very thoughts before you utter a word. None has known you more intimately. This is the most important conversation you can ever have! Yes, your human exchanges are important too, but you may not realize that the conversations you are having at this table at this present moment, sets the tone for your future human interactions and conversations. It is more than conversation. It is a connection!

As He gazes lovingly into your eyes, oddly enough, you can't think of anything to ask for. You are seated at the table with the very One who can give you your heart's desire and nothing comes to mind. You are so absorbed in the magnitude of the moment, your mind seems to be locked in on one thing; Him! You are simply grateful for being deemed worthy of such a position. You truly understand what it means to be fully present! There are no awkward silences experienced. As a matter of fact, they are welcomed. It is in the silence that you seem to be able to hear Him clearer. You are changed in ways you cannot articulate or comprehend. You just know it is good! You share a laugh. He reminds you of Psalm 103:2, that He is your friend with benefits. You've never seen a heart smile but you are sure yours does at this moment.

 As a Selective Single, choose wisely and choose well, but don't choose without taking a seat at the table to consult with your Wonderful Counselor. Father knows best!